The prophet said, “He (God) will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” (Malachi 4:6)
The curse is the result of fatherlessness. The absence of fathers destroys both a family and a nation. One of the greatest problems facing our world today is the absentee father. When we look at history, the record shows that many of the leaders who brought the world its greatest pain did not have good fathers. From men like Adolf Hitler to Osama bin Laden, their pain became our pain. There’s a strong correlation between bad fathers and dysfunctional families.
I’ve watched the decisions made by our current president, Mr. Obama, and tried to understand what motivates him. It’s obvious he has a completely different set of values than I do, but the reasoning behind some of his decisions has been a mystery to me. It was only after reading his book, Dreams of my Father, and seeing the dysfunctional family into which he was born, that I began to understand his thought process. It is the curse of fatherlessness. In his biography, he describes growing up longing to understand the mysterious young man who met and married his mother, but shortly after Barack’s birth, his father left them to return to his native country of Kenya, then was killed in an accident before his son was able to visit him. When he was grown, Barack made a trip to Kenya in a search of the father he was never able to know. There, he found his father’s dreams, but the man he sought was gone, so he began his journey of trying to live out his dead father’s dreams. Of course, this is impossible to do, but I believe it gives us clues into why our president makes some of his decisions. He’s trying to live his father’s dreams.
Something inside the child makes him desire to be like his father or to find a mate like her father. Without what the prophet called “turning the heart to the father,” there’s some type of disconnection which brings a curse. Statistics have shown that children growing up in father-less homes are more likely to commit crime and end up in prison. The lack of fathers has cursed their lives. They either hate him, wanting nothing to do with the man whose DNA they carry; or they idolize him and attempt to live like the man they never knew. Either way, they’ve received the curse of fatherlessness.
What can be done to rectify this terrible situation? First, as Christians, we must tell everyone about our Heavenly Father. This is the good news of Jesus Christ: He came to reveal The Father us. Jesus said, “He who has seen Me, has seen the Father.” (John 14:9) In the Old Testament, God was seen as the all-powerful Creator who was unapproachable in His holiness. The Israelites were afraid they would die if they came close to Him. In the New Testament, the greatest revelation Jesus came to give us was that God is our heavenly Father. He loves us. He doesn’t want to destroy us; instead like a good Father, He invites us to come to Him and desires to deliver us from the curse of sin. The world has the wrong opinion of God. He’s not an unapproachable God of wrath; He’s a loving Father. The revelation of a good heavenly Father heals many of the dysfunctions from a natural family.
Secondly, as Christian men, we should accept our responsibility of adopting the orphans around us. One of our greatest opportunities in life is helping people around us grow into maturity. We should continually be looking for people who for whatever reasons have grown up in dysfunctional families and, whenever possible, we should begin relationships to help them become healthy adults. We need to help these young men understand what it means to be a man and help the young women understand the abuser is an imposter, not a real man. We can’t help everybody, but we can help someone, and it’s our responsibility to help those whom we can.
Without fathers, our nation will die as orphans. The United States is a great nation and it is worth investing our lives to help the young people around us. I challenge you to adopt someone, someone who needs a father. Become a father to the fatherless. Let’s break the curse.